What is important for the first rendezvous? There are a few things to think about to make it successful and maybe turn it into a second date. But step by step, the first thing to think about is the best place.
Where to meet best?As already mentioned, the best place for the first rendezvous is a public place like a Cafe or a bar. Depending on the amount of money you want to spend, you can also suggest a restaurant for the first date. Meeting at home at somebodys place is not the best choice. This is because of two reasons:
- Especially women do often not like to visit men at home for a first date, or are even scared about that, what is understandable. Neither they won't a man visiting them.
- For the one who is visited it might be a little hard to end the date premature if he gets aware of the person does not meet the expectations. In a cafe you can leave when you have enough and the date is over. At home you can't to that this easily, nor you should throw out your visitor, even if you're glad to see the back of.
Be well prepared for this dateAfter you have agreed on a good location, it gets time to prepare yourself for the date. This is not just clothes or make up. Here some points you should keep a watching brief over:
- Of cause you should wear some good and clean clothes. To the extend possible do not wear the same than you wear on the photos in your user profile at the dating website.
- Make sure that you are good smelling. This does not only mean to take a shower before the date. Also use some good perfume, men and women like that equally. But less is more, don't overdo it.
- Preparation is not only your smell and outfit. Even more important is to prepare your mind. Silence during a date hurts, thus make sure you always have some topics to talk about. This can nearly be everything, things you like, your family like brothers and sisters, hobbies or places you have been and places you would like to see.
- Don't be a show-off and don't only flush your program. Do some ping-pong and try to have a balanced conversation. Focus on commonalities, maybe there are even some things you have both on your bucket list. This way you come closer.
- Men should remember their good manners. For instance men open the door for the lady and wait until she stepped in. Further men should always take care that she gets the better place in the restaurant or cafe, this means she looks into the room where she can see more and he looks against the wall. These are just small things, but as you know the small things make the difference.
How long your first date should lastThe first date shouldn't last to long. Even if you are well amused and have some fun together it should not take more than 2 - 2,5 hours. Don't shot all your powder at the first date, maintain some excitement and curiosity about yourself.
If the date doesn't meet your expectations, why not ending it after something like half an hour? But still be friendly and say thank you.
After your first dateThe first date is gone and hopefully you had some great impressions. It's time to think about the next steps. If you liked your rendezvous and want to continue, it is absolutely necessary to write a short text message or Whatsapp saying thank you for the great evening or something similar.
Often your counterpart liked the date also but isn't sure if you liked it and therefore don't dare to contact you again. If both of you think that way, it's going to be very sad ;-)
Hence write that simple text message and all doors are open again. If both had a good time together, the second date will follow soon.
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