Tue. 01. Nov. 2016 (00:37)

Getting a date

Probably you do not just want to write with somebody, certainly you want a date. Since the first step is done and you are in a conversation, this shouldn't be a big deal. But now finesse is demanded. Don't go like a bull at a gate now!

Come to the point quickly, but don't overdo it

For sure this is a tightrope walk, you shouldn't be to direct. On the other hand it's not less important to avoid drifting into triviality. Once your opponent is bored from your writing, you will have a hard time to turn this completely.

When the reply times are to long

If you have to wait hours for a reply, even if you see your flirt partner is online, it might be a sign that he/she is not very interested in you. Of cause this can also mean your partner has opened the dating portal at his computer but is doing the dishes, some phone calls, or what ever at the moment. Maybe he/she has even fall a sleep (sometimes singles write until late in the night ;-)) .
This are just signs, but you will find out very soon if this happens all the time. If so, be honest to yourself and accept that you aren't interesting. Don't waste to much time and stop beating a dead horse. For sure there a lot of other possibilities. Just be a little flexible!

Good flow in conversation = date

If you get answers directly, you aroused interest! That's a absolutely good sign and you can almost be sure to get a date. You have the fish at the hook now, don't loose it!
Focus the conversation to dates in general at a early stage. Ask if he/she already had some dates on the specific dating platform. Some people just want to write but never date. Maybe they just look for pastime because they are married or already in a partnership. You will find out with questions like that and avoid a waste of time. If everything looks good, you can go on.

Never ask for phone numbers – give yours instead

It's always good to exchange phone numbers, because it brings you a major step closer towards the chosen one.
Suggesting to continue the chat on Whatsapp is always a good guise to exchange phone numbers. Just give your number with this suggestion and you will get the other number! Still better, setup your Whatsapp that only your contacts can see your profile image, this will awake curiosity and ensures you to get the number.

Dating your new Whatsapp contact

Once you are in a Whatsapp chat, the first date is very close. Try to write a couple of times a day. After one or two days you can easily ask to meet the other in a cafe or bar in the area. Depending on how much you attach value to, you even can ask to have dinner together somewhere in the area.

Meet in public places

Avoid to suggest a date at your home. Most people don't like that or are even scared from that. A joint walk is also a good idea, but a joint cappuccino or coffee in a public place might be the better idea. Just because sitting opposite gives you better conditions to watch the other and to recognize reactions during talking. If you have a walk, both usually look straight forward what gives you less good conditions getting to know each other.

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